[Why my sexuality is none of your business was first written for and published on Poised.]
Lately, I’ve become more attuned to bisexual erasure, more so because I’ve been asked questions to ‘prove’ my sexuality, which shouldn’t be anyone’s business anyway. A lot of people tend to say “you’re not bi because you’ve never been with a woman/man” and this is primarily what this piece is about.
It wasn’t long ago where I was told I’m not bisexual because I’ve never had sex with a woman—“it means I can say I’m an astronaut even though I’ve never been to space. It doesn’t make sense. How do you even know you’re bi if you’ve never had sex with a woman?”
Well, to this point I’ll argue: a lot of heterosexual people know they’re straight even when they’re virgins. Why are their sexualities never questioned? There’s this double standard at play, erasing bisexuality from the community. The B in LGBT+ fucking stands for bisexual!