[Why my sexuality is none of your business was first written for and published on Poised.]

Lately, I’ve become more attuned to bisexual erasure, more so because I’ve been asked questions to ‘prove’ my sexuality, which shouldn’t be anyone’s business anyway. A lot of people tend to say “you’re not bi because you’ve never been with a woman/man” and this is primarily what this piece is about. 

It wasn’t long ago where I was told I’m not bisexual because I’ve never had sex with a woman—“it means I can say I’m an astronaut even though I’ve never been to space. It doesn’t make sense. How do you even know you’re bi if you’ve never had sex with a woman?”

Well, to this point I’ll argue: a lot of heterosexual people know they’re straight even when they’re virgins. Why are their sexualities never questioned? There’s this double standard at play, erasing bisexuality from the community. The B in LGBT+ fucking stands for bisexual!

Read the article on Poised . . .

Posted by:Sumaiya Ahmed

Sumaiya Ahmed is a student, poet and freelance features journalist, aiming to break down the boundaries of cultural stigma and shame attached to mental health and sexuality within the South Asian culture, and bringing marginalised topics to light. She is the Founder and Editor-In-Chief of Poised.

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