On dating someone outside my religion

[this piece was first published on Hello Giggles which you can find here.] At the very start of 2020, I met the love of my life. From the beginning, I knew if the relationship blossomed into something more serious, the journey would be fraught with hardship, guilt, and a semblance of questioning where I stand not just…

Blooming in adversity

Since my last post about being unsure whether I would get a job I really wanted, related to mental health, a number of things have changed. Since February/March, I had been working in a position I didn’t entirely want — but it was a massive stepping stone, a look into what-could-be — but that was…

Brown Boy Privilege

Being born a girl is hard enough, but coming into the world as a brown girl is seemingly harder: forced to face the most violent, burdensome subjugations of the Diaspora, still holding onto the traditions of lands left behind, a culture so rife in patriarchy, abuse and placing izzat on the shoulders of its daughters’.

Marriage {as set out by brown culture}

[read about brown boy privilege here.] When it comes to marital relationships in brown culture, there’s something like a guideline to adhere to, lest we’re told to return to our father’s home and not go back. It’s misogynistic, sexist and dripping with patriarchy.

Brown Girl Guilt

i spent the entirety of today with J, free from the cultural toxicity and the unbelievably infuriating four words that i’m forced to hear every day; what will people say? but this freedom only lasted until i came home at 8pm.