What I am learning dating a white man

For years, whilst learning and unlearning so many truths and the history behind not just my culture and my people, about the impact Britain left behind on Bangladesh, once part of India with Pakistan, I, in all complete honesty, wasn’t a fan of white people as a whole. Individual white people, I liked of course….

Not Any Less Asian

Around 4am this morning, i was reading “Dating out of your community does not make you less” by Aafiyah Shaikh, and it made me deep a few things really–like how me dating a white man can be seen as a betrayal of sorts to some people in my community, and to my ethnicity. Usually when…

Periods: The Secret Shame of Womanhood

Disclaimer: Picture Creator: Natalia Lavrenkova | Credit: Getty Images/iStockphoto When you first start your period, you’re either excited to have finally approached ‘womanhood’ or puberty, or curled up from excruciating pain, or frustrated because it’s something you’ll have to deal with for quite a few decades.

Depression: a friend that never leaves

TRIGGER WARNING: DEPRESSION, ABUSE & MENTION OF SUICIDAL THOUGHTS the bitter truth about depression is that it never truly goes away. sure, there are some days that are better than others, where you’re so unbelievably happy you think nothing can ever ruin it — but it doesn’t last. i guess emotions are fleeting.

Brown Girl Guilt

i spent the entirety of today with J, free from the cultural toxicity and the unbelievably infuriating four words that i’m forced to hear every day; what will people say? but this freedom only lasted until i came home at 8pm.

The Complexities of Faith

TRIGGER WARNING: MENTION OF ABUSE, SUICIDE faith is a complicated thing. for some of us, faith and religion are two things we grew up with, not exactly out of choice, but because of the family we were born into. they taught it to us and so it became all we knew.

Red, White & Royal Blue

i’ve heard SO much about RED, WHITE & ROYAL BLUE that i knew i just had to have it. so the second it was delivered, i ripped the package open and began reading. and i fell head over heels in love. What happens when America’s First Son falls in love with the Prince of Wales?